False Start Getaway - ADHD Marriage Comic

Before I figured out that the getaway trips were more for me than for my ADHD spouse, I used to rely on him to figure out where we would go and handle all the planning. In my mind, it was a way for him to show that he cared for me and our relationship. Due to his lack of interest or the challenges of executive function related to ADHD, I would eventually step in, do all the planning, and then complain about his lack of effort, not realizing that he was already trying his best to make me happy.

Once I realized this, along with the fact that I love his company on these trips more than anything else, I changed my approach, perspective, and expectations. Now, I share 2-3 places that I want to go and get his feedback on which he prefers. Then, I plan the trip with some input from him on preferences, and we go. We end up having more fun together, and these getaway trips bring us closer.

Who plans your getaway trips in your relationship, and how do you ensure you both get what you want? Share below with others who are looking for solutions.